What's With The Dating Scene

I've been single for about three to four months now and I have to say the dating scene is certainly interesting.

It's not that I have trouble finding men to date, I have trouble finding the men who are true gentlemen.

Fading away seems to be the days of courting. Drifting are the days where a guy tries to impress a woman with flowers and words.

Now it's buy you lunch, buy you dinner or a drink and try to get you into bed that same day or night. Though I'm a passionate woman, I find the tactics demeaning and disrespectful, especially when there is NO instant attraction.

Through it all I remain optimistic that the one will find his way to me.

So I continue to drench through the losers, liars, and b.s.er's till the right one comes along.

Life's Journey

I have to admit that it's been a very interesting couple of years with all the things I've been through but it's been a growing experience to say the least.

Through my travels in life I continue to be optimistic no matter what the situation is. To me, there's no such thing as failure just obstacles to over come and learn from. There are many blessing in my life that I am so grateful for and I continue to be blessed on a regular basis.

I've been busy building up my real estate business - www.realtorsabrinahayes.com. It's not as easy as I thought it would be. So much work and time involved but I enjoy it, especially the wonderful people I get to meet.

I know a lot of people are wondering if I'm still modeling and the answer is yes. I have managed to continue doing so with all the other things I have going on. In fact, I do have a couple of photo shoots coming up. Pictures will be posted on my facebook page and maybe on my site.

Meanwhile it's CMH Fashion Week here in Columbus, Ohio and I'm preparing to attend the many wonderful events leading up to the main one. So if you're in town why not check it out.

Change

2013 Photographer David Stith

I know it's been awhile since my last post. So much has been going on I really don't know where to start.

All I can say right now is that I've been to hell and back and my life continues to receive so many blessings.

It's been a rough journey but my amazing children and my faith has seen me through the dark times and now I can smile once again while enjoying my life and my new found freedom. It's funny though, throughout it all I've always and will continue to be optimistic.

There were times where I didn't think I could handle it all, I wanted to give up but I just couldn't because I knew for me there was no such thing as quitting. The word can't just could not nor would not exist in my world.

One lesson I did learned from my ordeal was that, one should never let another person have control over them. NEVER!!!! We have control of our own lives and should never give that control over to another. We are the masters of our fate and we should always remember that. I know I will and I have.

I've taken back control of my life and I'm becoming much stronger with each and every life lesson.
I'm still modeling, still trying to break into the acting scene, added real estate agent to my list of skills and continuously working on other projects all while being an awesome mom to my beautiful
treasures.

Socially, I've been getting back out there, attending a few events here and there. lounging mostly at Eleven and Sushi Rock. Still looking for that amazing dance place for the 30 and over crowd. Maybe I should consider opening one ;)

My love life, well that's another topic all together. . .lol

Regardless, life is good and it only gets better!!!

As the saying goes, "what doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger."

Oh My What A Ball!!!

I really enjoyed attending the Columbus Arts Masquerade Ball with my friends. Which was a fundraising event for The OSU James Cancer Center. We had such an amazing time!!! In fact I had too much of an amazing time and paid for it the very next day big time but it was well worth it!!!!

For those who would like to donate to The OSU James Cancer Center, please follow the link: http://cancer.osu.edu/waystogive and please give generously!!! Thank you!!! xoxo

Other than attending events such as the Masquerade Ball and the grand opening of Columbus newest hot spot Fleur. Which is a Champagne, vodka dessert lounge inspired concept (by the way love the concept, the decor and atmosphere!!). I've been doing photo shoots, preparing for my role as a vampire and trying to get into other projects to keep myself busy. One thing for sure, though I love Columbus I have to start traveling very soon. I think the problem with me having very little inspiration is because I've become too complacent and I need to spread my wings once again and travel to my favorite places such as New York, Chicago, Miami and maybe finally make my way to Las Vegas baby!!!

Have to recharge!and reestablish myself!!!

By the way!!! Here are some up and coming local events to check out!!

• In Christy's Shoes - High Hopes in High Heels Charity Event
• Fashion Week Columbus 2011 Launch Event

Finally, An Update!!!

I know, I know!!! I said that I would get better at keeping my blog updated on a weekly or monthly bases but for some reason I just can't keep it going smoothly! I guess my mind is ALL over the place trying to find some steady ground!!!

Wondering what I've been up too??!! Well, I've been trying to free myself from a toxic relationship while getting my life back in order, now enjoying a loving and fulfilling relationship all while regaining the strength from within. I tell you, it's been a couple of trying years but I find it to be a growing experience to say the least. Sometimes it's best to look at stressful times in our lives as a lesson to be learned. We acknowledge, we learn, we grow and then we move on to enjoy better times in our lives!!! I think for most of us, we tend to dwell on the negative when there is sooo many wonderful things going on in our lives in which we should embrace wholeheartedly.

I can't believe how after so many wonderful and dear people in my life have told me time and time again how wonderful and how loved I am that I let just one narcissistic, sadistic, conniving, lying, vengeful person make me fell otherwise but no more!!! I've seen the light and I'm becoming a lot stronger as the days go by!!! I can't help but wonder if the illness they're suffering has a lot to do with karma!!! I truly believe that it does!!!  As they say, "Karma is a BITCH"!!! Oh well, life goes on and I only grow stronger!!!!

My modeling career is still going strong (checkout my Facebook Page for more info.) and now I'm getting my feet wet with acting, playing the role of a vampire in the up and coming webisodes called "The Oakman Project"!!

Production will be begin very soon and it's a part I can't wait to sink my teeth into!!! To get the inside scoop on updates and view photos, feel free to visit their Facebook Page and click on "Like"!!!

Final note: Make sure to checkout my baby girl!!! Looks like she following in her mother's foot steps!!! :)

Thank you for your support!!!
xoxo

Taking It One Step At A Time

Life has certainly had it's up's and down's for me but I continue to move forward with an optimistic attitude. I guess that's what gets me through the down times along with my faith and there has been plenty down times within these past couple of years.

I'm not affraid to say that I've fought with depression a great deal these past couple of years, forcing myself to face the day when in fact I wanted to stay in bed and just sleep the day away but it just wasn't an option for me. I have to climb that mountain no matter what the struggle may be because I know once I reach the top, there is nothing I can't accomplish!!!!

Another thing that helps me through is "graditude"!!! I am so grateful for my friends, my family, my fans who have shown me much love, understanding and have encourage me every step of the way. You give me strength!!! I love you all and I feel very blessed to have you in my life. I know when I am down all I have to do is smile and start thinking about the many happy moments I've experienced within my life then joy over comes me. Lately, I've had plenty of happy moments because of a special someone who's been part of my life for over a year. Just thinking about them brings a smile to my face but I will keep that secret for the time being even though locally a lot of individuals know who that person is. . . .

Anyway, I'm slowly getting back into the modeling biz. I've been doing a little freelance personal fashion stylist work and showing my support by attending local fashion events such as the "Gretchy Launch Party", Fashion Week Columbus, and the "Seven Deadly Sins" fashion show but now I'm making plans to travel to New York, Chicago, L.A. and Miami. It's time for me to shine once again!!!! As I've said before and will continue to say, "I'm like fine wine, I just get even better with time"!!!! :)

To see if this is true, just checkout my latest photos on my "Facebook Page"!!!

Before I go, a little tibit. Last night me and some friends went to a wine bar in the Short North called Mouton located at 954 N. High St. The decor may not have be five stars but the experience I had there certainly earned it five stars in my book. The atmosphere was very laid back. The service was right on point and the owner made the experience very warm and personal. So make sure to check it out and to all you out of towner's make sure to put it on your "places to visit" when you come to Columbus.

Can't Keep A Good Woman Down. . . .

As Mary J. Blige sings, "You can't keep a good woman down"!!! How true, how true!!!

Like I've mentioned before, I hit a few rough patches over the years which had me down but not out.

Life tends to test us every now and then. It's amazing that you find out just how strong you are when you are put through these test. Also the wisdom you obtain. You also discover the people who are truly there for you. Life is always teaching us a valuable lesson.

Without going into detail, I was in a relationship which drained me of my "Happy Go Lucky" spirit and almost sucked the life out of me. It's amazing how being in a toxic relationship can change you drastically but I'm recovering!!!

I'm hoping that the residue from the troubled relationship will not carry over into a new possible relationship. I'm a good woman and I deserve to be with a good man. I will no longer settle for less!!!

I not going to lie, the walls are up and it's going to be a little tough to tear them down.

In the meantime, I have my dear friends, close family members and the two loves of my life, my daughter and son that keep me going.

As some of you may have noticed, I did take a hiatus from the modeling to work on other projects but I'm slowly working my way back into it. So expect to see new photos popping up soon on my  modeling site :)

Meanwhile, I've been running my Personal Fashion Stylist Service and working on launching "Probleme Resolu" a personal conceirge/errand service, along trying to maintain my social status (party girl can't fade away) : )

As I've said before, I'm like a Phoenix rising. . . so watch out!!!

xoxo